Friday, September 7, 2007


I got hold of a book authored by Michael Losier. Entitled Law of Attraction, it is one of the most intriguing books I have read.

The author studied Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a subject that deals with how the mind and thoughts work and the effects on human being. He got interested with the subject because he wants to help others to rise above their difficult situations and attain utmost satisfaction in their lives.

In his book he defined the words Law of Attraction as "I attract to my life whatever I give my attention, energy and focus to, whether positive or negative."

The book teaches one how to deliberately attract the things he really wants and not to give energy to what he really does not want. And it will start with a thought. It may seem trivial since the thinker never wants to think of bad things to happen in his or her life. But it takes a lot of discipline to really do it.

We may not be aware of it, but unconsciously, we send out negative thoughts to the Universe and since we can only send one type of vibration, positive or negative, at a time, the outcome will be the basis of the type of vibration we send. If good things happen to us most of the time, we are doing a great job since we are sending positive vibration and positive thoughts fill our mind always. If series of unfortunate events visit us often, we are surely neglecting our good habits.

One example of this is when you tell yourself that you will pass the examination but deep inside you, a feeling of incompetence hound you every minute, even though you have done your homework well. While taking the exam, you feel nervous and anxious. You are ready to freak out because most of the details you have memorized are lost somewhere in your mind and retrieving them is proving to be difficult to do as you are running out of time. The result? You became what you thought of.

The author presented 3 steps Formula for deliberate attraction:

1) Identify your desire.
2) Give your desire attention.
3) Allow it.

1) Identify your desire. One of the reasons why one does not get what he wants is that he does not know what he really wants. Make up your mind! You may consider an area in your life wherein you are least satisfied, say you career. When you choose to make an improvement in your career, list down all the things that will help make your career great. You may write, "good working relationship with my co-workers." Never write in negative tone such as "I do not want to work with people who are always envious of other person's success." Always write in positive and encouraging tone.

2) Give your desire attention. You have identified your desire and enumerated the things that will help in manifesting your desire. No need to read your list everyday. All you have to do is give it attention, energy and focus by including it in your current vibration. Example is when you are visualizing your desire, when you are noticing something nice, or when you are observing something you do not like. You have to include your desire in whatever emotions or feelings you have at the moment and even in whatever you do. But never put you list inside your drawer and completely forget about it. Manifestation of your desire will never take place.

3) Allow it. Allow it to happen. The most important of all steps. You are forwarned not to have even a small doubt during this time. Doubt is considered a negative vibration and having this will cause delay and even cancellation of manifestation of your desire. Believe and expect your desire to manifest. This is the most important job that you can contribute. Allow the Universe to work in the manifestation of your desire and never intervene or do something to hasten its materialization. That will cause delay. It is the job of the Universe to figure out how to bring to you your desire. Sit back and relax. You may feel some hunches or hear voices within you telling you to take part. That is the time to act.

As to when you will get what you want depends also on some factors, according to some people who are experts on this subject: If you are ready to accept the responsibility, if it is the right time, if you are worthy of such desire. When it is taking you too long to manifest your desire, the Universe is trying to tell you something. Bear in mind too that what you want may cause harm on other people. So think about it deeply.

In the movie 13 going 30, the teenage girl is in a hurry to grow up and be the woman she wants to be. She is considered a plain Jane and quite stubborn but very much loved by her parents and her male bestfriend.

On the day of her 13th birthday, she uttered her fervent wish while she was sitting inside her cabinet. She must have given her all and energy to it that in a matter of seconds her wish was granted.

She woke up in her plush apartment. She almost screamed when she saw herself on the mirror- grown-up(this time played by Jennifer Garner) with a bigger bosom, the kind that she really wanted, and a body to die for. Little by little, she discovered all her wrongdoings: she and her boyfriend were into pre-marital sex, she was having an affair with a married man, she almost forgot that her parents were still alive and that she had never visited them for quite sometime.

She worked as an editor in a fashion magazine. Although her career was doing good, she was besieged with several problems. Among them was her unrequitted love. Her bestfriend was not that into her.

What she wished for was given to her and yet she was disappointed because the events were overwhelming and she realized that it was not the kind of world for her to live in. The new world is set in year 2000 but her heart and mind function 20 years behind. Fate allowed her to live her dream but only to teach her a lesson: correct all her mistakes and clean up. She got back to her present world. She spent most of her time loving her parents and yes, she married her bestfriend.

Be careful on what you wish for. It may not be the kind of life you really want. Make sure that it is really yours and not dictated by people surrounding you.

Mr. Losier may not include this in his book but his subject can also be Bible-based. In Matthew 21:22 it says that "whatever ye shall ask, believing, ye shall receive." It also has 3 steps: pray, believe and receive. The techniques may be different but the essence is very much the same.

There is an unforgettable line in the book The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho:"If you really want something deep in you heart, the Universe will conspire." So there...

Wednesday, September 5, 2007


All of us dream of bringing success in all areas of our lives: marriage and family life, spiritual, personal, career and health. Very few people have attained victory in all areas of their lives. Most of us are still working very hard to achieve our desired results. Some have seen their goals come to pass in a very short time while others are taking a long time to realize their dreams.

Achievers revealed that the end product- goals, dreams, destinations, whatever you call them, that resemble success is not the sweetest of them all. The time spent, circumstances, experiences, lessons, frustrations, mistakes and failures are the most important factors that shape an individual once he submits himself to personal transformation to be the best person he can be in every area of his life. These are things that he will likely remember once he starts to reminisce the unforgettable battles of his life.

I have gotten myself a number of books about success and regaining power to have an almost perfect life. Many factors are disclosed to us about how to achieve success in everything we do. Maybe it is just a matter of choosing what you think may work wonder in your life. It may seem impossible to comply with all the tips enumerated in the books. But I want to share with you some pointers which I really think are valuable in bringing success to our lives.

1) Program your mind. Should I say reprogram your mind? Many years of believing that you, yourself is a failure created havoc to your whole being. Guard your mind against thinking negative thoughts. If you send the Universe your pessimistic thoughts, you would definitely attract pessimistic people, circumstances, attitudes. Remember that your life follows your thoughts, so always think of happy, victorious and positive thoughts and all these will eventually fill your life.

2) Be a good listener. Most of us want to be the center of attraction by talking all the time. We want others to know that we are superior and knowledgeable. Are we the only one? Surely, others have great stories to tell and they believe too that those who listen to them can learn something from them. Allow others to take the centerstage and let them say their piece. No matter how short the speech is we can always gain something significant from it.

3) Control your emotions. In everything you do, be it good or bad, there is a corresponding comment to take. Whatever it is, accept it wholeheartedly and work on areas that need immediate improvement. Do not let those few words change your mood from happy to blue. No person, thing or circumstance should influence your disposition. No one or thing has the power to make you sad, discontent or happy. Always remain in control of yourself.

4) Allow the not-so-good situation to happen in your life. Now this may sound absurd. Who wants to experience disaster in life? Certainly, nobody wants it. There are some situations happening in our lives which are beyond our control and no matter how hard we fight them we end up crushed and weary. We are advised not to resist them. Instead, recognize the opportunities hidden in them. It maybe that changes have to take place and there should be some refining jobs that have to be made on our part that impurities are being drawn out from us. Our character, faith and trust are being tested and we are being prepared for a more challenging situation that we will encounter later in life. You always have a choice but always choose to be better than bitter. Do not wallow in waste while experiencing this plight. Get up and work on an action plan. Rise above the situation and see the endless possibilities for advancement.

5) Learn to give. Never think that in giving, it only involves money. If you have money, by all means give! You can give to your church, your favorite charity and people who are sick. You can also give what you need at the moment. If you need a job, you can also help other job seekers find their dream jobs. If you need love, give it to those who may have abandoned by their loved ones. Bear in mind that you will always receive what you give. If you want your dream to come to pass, help others to fulfill their dreams. You may find joy in giving and God loves a cheerful giver.

6) Improve yourself. The skills you acquired several years ago have become obsolete by now and a little upgrading is needed to keep up with the latest trends. Acquiring new skills is vital in surviving the challenges in life particularly in your career.

7) Believe in yourself. If you will not believe in yourself, who else will? You are a unique creation of God and with this conviction, you are always sure that everything good will happen to you. You have the intelligence, power, ability and God's guidance to be the best person you want to be. You are created to be a winner in life and with this thinking, obstacles that come to you will just be regarded as spices that make your life truly challenging.

8) Trust in God. Know that God is in control and will always bring out the best in you even if you are in your most trying times. God is working in some ways that are not easily seen by you, but you are sure that He is always watching you. Being his child, you should acknowledge the fact the you are blessed, always.

Seems easy to follow rules but the truth is, as we work our way to success, we can always expect hindrances to get in the way. As they say, our victories are always made up of different kinds of obstacles- negative thoughts, frustrations, setbacks, mistakes, evil persons. All these make our personal exploration to be more meaningful, exciting and intriguing. Consequently, refining and molding us to emerge as champions in life.

Sunday, September 2, 2007


As I write this piece, my mind is preoccupied with so many things. Both essential and non-essential ones. Clearing my mind of some cobwebs proved to be difficult as some thoughts were insisting to occupy a significant space in my mind.

I remember when cleaning our room seemed to be a not so easy chore to do. Why? Because I would easily bump my leg to a wooden cabinet causing bruise or wound instantly. Sometimes it was my arm that would hit the edge of a cabinet making me pause for a while and wait until the pain had subsided. When I showed the marks to my mother she told me, "you were always thinking of so many things!" She was right then.

Too many thoughts, not related to what I was doing that time, prevented me to have a glimpse of those furnitures strategically placed in our room.

One morning, I had to rush to my transcription school because we would be having our long quiz, our first. As you know, this mode of transportation is usually jampacked with passengers shortly before the beginning of office or school hours. You can even smell the breath of people around you even if it seems that they are not breathing due to lack of breathing space inside. I was recalling the lessons I had reviewed the night before. I was unmindful of the condition inside the train as I racked my brains, trying very hard to review all the necessary details for the exam. I felt so exhausted and weary even if I had forgotten only a few of them, which may be unnecessary I thought. I closed my eyes and breathed deeply for a moment. I shifted my head to my right and opened my eyes. I noticed a woman with long hair. Not the kind of hair you see and envy in a shampoo commercial. She had nice curls and her hairstrands were dyed light brown. I felt good staring at her hair. It was relaxing to me. It would be quite a crime if I would not let her know my admiration to her hair. "You have such nice curls," I told her. She smiled and said, "Oh, they are natural curls. You are not the only one who complemented my hair."

After that I moved my head to my left and started watching the buildings we passed by. Suddenly, the missing details that I wanted badly appeared in my mind as I, once again, closed my eyes. As expected, I did very well in my exam.

We always do that. When we are busy with a particular activity, we always tell ourselves that we should finish what we are doing ahead of time so we can go home early and rest. We always think of the future, the rewards that we will get, the next appoinment that we have to attend to. If not the future, we allow our past experiences to be replayed in our minds while working on assigned tasks. Then we complain that our work becomes boring, difficult and not making us happy anymore. We blame our co-workers, the department we are in and all these result to our being mediocre and unworthy of our jobs. We do not notice that the real reason is what preoccupies our minds. We are not concentrating in what we are supposed to do and this makes our jobs even harder.

Our teacher in Meditation class told us that one of the advantages of our studies is to help us focus or concentrate on what we are doing at the moment so that we can achieve the desired result. She emphasized that what we have at the moment is the most important. Past is past and you can never change it. The future? You will really never know what will happen next.

The now is what we have and we should nurture it. If we are focused on what we have or do at the moment, we can find happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction because we have all the time to work on it, perfect it, making it our masterpiece. A work that shows our dedication, love and passion. If we are happy with what we are doing now, we can draw strength and joy from it. It helps us to be a better person. We learn to enjoy what we have now be it a small income, small but modest house. All these are magnified ten times more as we learn to appreciate the beauty of minding the "now."

We become more positive as we go on because we let go of our past and we let God take care of our future. Worries, disappointments and frustrations do not have spots in our psyches.

We know in our hearts that since the "now" is our preoccupation at the moment, we can shape it, we can mold it, we can sculpt it to be our best representation and the goodness that we produce out of it can make us truly whole, better and perhaps, best.